Maria Dahvana Headley grew up listening to the "Just Say No" anti-drug campaign of the 1980s. As a student at New York University in the late '90s, she applied that advice to her love life, turning down most men who asked her out and dating only intellectual, literary types. Frustrated by those guys, she reversed course, resolving to spend one year responding positively to all flirting and saying yes to literally anyone who asked her out. The ensuing 150 dates included a homeless man, several non-English speakers, 10 taxi drivers, two lesbians and a mime.
Headley: YES, YES, YES!
Headley's memoir of the experience, "The Year of Yes" is now in U.S. bookstores, and Hollywood's already calling. She urges other people to say yes more ofter, despite some horrible dates. (One guy took her to a bar that, it became clear, was a strip club.)
海德蕾把這段奇妙的經歷寫成回憶錄"來者不拒的一年" (暫譯)。該書已經在全美各大書店舖貨，好萊屋也有意將其搬上大螢幕。儘管海德蕾經歷了一些可怕的約會(一位男伴帶她去酒吧... 後來很明顯的是脫衣舞場那種) 她仍然力勸人們應該多多益善，嘗試不同的對象。
"Lots of women are pretty set in what they think they have to have in order to be happy, but it doesn't hurt to date people who are not that," she says.
It worked for her: during her dating spree, she met a playwright who was divorced and 25 older and had two children -baggage that would have ordinarily nixed his chances. They married in 2003; now 28, Headly lives in Seattle with two teenage steopchildred. "It's something I never would have picked, but it's turned out to be this kind of amazing experience," she says.